We are like flowers. We're either growing and blooming, or we're withering and dying.
Conflicting energy can make us sick and it may never cease, unless you take control of your emotions and don't let outside events affect you.
Does it look like everyone around you wants to create a fight? Do you feel like you are in a constant conflict weather with people, situations or yourself?
You are not alone. Most people feel victimized, that's why we have so many lawyers in the world! I would like to share with you why this may be happening in your life and offer you a different perspective so you can shift these conflicting energies.
You can do this by "reframing" what happened. Reframe means to give it a new perspective, to understand it from a different point of view. If you don't do that, the price you pay is too high. You jeopardize your wellbeing, and by doing so you are not in service to the betterment of the world either!
I'm not saying you are right or wrong. I'm saying that staying in the conflict zone is poisoning to you. Understand? It's like wearing boxing gloves all the time! You may feel like if you don't protect yourself people may take advantage of you, or people may stab you in the back... so you are ready to "punch"!
Here is an example of how our minds work. If I say doctors kill people, I will collect evidence that my belief is true. I can google cases of medical malpractice and prepare a petition for people to sign so that I can win my case. On the other hand, if I believe that doctors save lives, I can do the same thing and also fight to win my case.
In other words, where you put your attention on, your mind will find evidence to help you win the case. This is how mind operates. It's not your fault. It's nobody's fault, it's simply how it works. So, you must understand that you are not your mind, and that your mind is just a tool for you to live in this world.
Your mind is like wild horses! Your body is the wagon and you are the coachman!
If you don't control those horses they will break the wagon and throw you on the ground!
No matter what you believe, your mind will look for evidence to prove it's right, and to fight. The reason this happens is because we were programed since small ages to defend ourselves, to compete, to win the game.The thing is that there is no game! Life is a series of experiences and you are here to live these experiences!
I would like to invite you to drop your boxing gloves and reflect upon times when you started to make assumptions about someone or something and these assumptions became your truth. Perhaps you had arguments with someone, or you broke up a relationship , or felt so helpless that you had to call others to help you through the fight.
Watch this video, where I'm helping my client Susan Pixley to recognize the conflicting energy that has been stoping her to create the life she would love to live. This is part 3 of the Energy Leadership Assessment Debrief that I provide to my clients before coaching sessions. It reveals how your attitude is impacting the unfolding of your life's stories.
I hope this video helps you reflect and reframe any conflicting energy you may have in your life right now.
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"Change the way you look at things and the things you are looking at changes" ~ Wayne Dyer
When we're busy living our lives, it seems that we don't find time to stop to re-focus, and then life happens by chance. When we open our eyes we find ourselves among disappointments and hurts and is natural to want to blame the world...
However, life is not to blame, not even others. It's not our fault either. After all, we weren't born with a life manual!
There are two ways to learn: to fall and get hurt, then stand up again, or to learn how your mind works and practice being mindful.
Our minds are like a radio station. You cannot hear FM when you tune into AM. The same way happens when we think self-defeating thoughts - we can't tune in to a great life.
So, we will keep attracting situations, people and circumstances that resonate in that wave link. Understand? Life will be like a broken record, you will re-live the same energy in different scenarios. No matter where you go, you will keep encountering the same type of annoying people, or the same type of work that you don't like, or even broken heart situations...
If this is happening to you, if you find yourself in a cycle of unfortunate events, you must learn how to shift your perception about things, so things can change. You must become mindful.
To be mindful is to be consciously aware, by using the mind to serve us, instead of being its slave. It's not easy to learn how to be mindful, because we are so used to identify ourselves with our thoughts that we just don't know how to start. But it's possible!
In this video, my client Susan has allowed me to share a clip from our debrief session so that you can see how the process of coaching works.
The first step is an assessment of the situation and acknowledgment of feelings and emotions. You may resonate with Susan, or you may not, but whatever you are going through I hope this inspires you to also acknowledge where you are right now.
Now, it's your turn, click reply and say hi!
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Broken Heart Healing Process
In my e-book, I share several processes (exercises) that will help you release your emotional pain and move on with your life. In this video I talk about the process of giving voice to your pain. You say with your own words, what is your pain like, in a symbolic way.
For example, to me in the beginning of my broken heart healing process I would say:
- I feel that I was stabbed in the back...
Then as time went by, I used to say:
- I feel like I am living in this dark wet cave, lonely and hopeless...
This changed to:
- I feel I'm a lonely bird flying alone in the sky.
See how it progresses? This is a great way to witness your own healing.
So, what is it like to be where you are right now? If you could translate your feelings to an image, what would that be?
There's great love for you here, and there's a life ahead for you to live, and you need to open the windows of your heart so that the sunshine can get through to you. Understand?
In other words don't lock yourself up to the world because it will only affect you, and your health. Please help me help you even further by writing your story, or your question in the comments below.
Remember, your comment can also help other people who are going through similar situation.
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HOw to get out the cycle of complaining?
The cycle of complaining starts with a problem, sometimes a small problem...
Let's say you had a problem at work where you did something wrong, or your boss was not in a good mood and then you go home and talk about that problem:
- He said this, I said that, and this and that happened... blah blah blah...
What happens is that you re-live that situation over and over again.
You feel like you want to blame someone or you want to find fault in yourself, so you are between these two energies which are very low energies to live by.
You bring words that enhance what happened in a way that you create an electrical magnetic field of complaining around yourself.
These electrical magnetic field will enhance your stage of complaining to a point that you will attract more situations for you to complain about! It activates a vibration in your whole being that will perpetuate this type of things to happen, and then you'll feel locked in a cycle of complaining.
- How do I get out of this????
You get out the cycle of complaining by getting in the cycle of gratitude.
I recommend you write everyday three reasons you are grateful everyday.
And then you may say:
- I have nothing to say that I'm grateful for because my life is very hard!
Maybe your day is gonna be horrible and you feel like you have nothing to say that you are grateful for.... but, yes, you can find it! You're alive, you're breathing, you have a bed that you are sleeping on... you have food to eat... you can even be grateful for the pen you are writing with! Yes?
Magnify hight level energies by raising your vibrations to gratitude and you'll automatically attract new people, situations and circumstances that are different then what happens when you are in the cycle of complaining.
Next time you find yourself in the cycle o complaining shift it to the cycle of gratitude, so that you change your energy and you can have a different outcome in your life.
I want you to practice this because there's results!
Everyday you pick some things to be grateful for and instead of complaining about what you don't want, focus your attention on what you have and what's good and working for you right now... shift your energy instantaneously!
Did you know that the scale of energy vibration of gratitude is bigger then love?
Let's start vibrating in a way that you attract people and circumstances that are in the same wave link. You are gonna find people that are nicer to you, you won't have problems at work anymore, and your life is gonna be like we say in Brazil: bread and butter!
So try it everyday - write three things that you are grateful for!
Another way to break the cycle of dissatisfaction is to notice. Become aware, as if you were your own police, by catching yourself when you have the same reaction that you had in the past.
- I'm not going to react the same way because I'll be jeopardizing all the work I am doing with gratitude! How can I better express patience right now, from where I am to where
I want to be by being more patient?
So, when situations arise you can say:
- How can I be more patient as I look at this, and not take it personal. Thank you Universe for bringing this situation to me again so that I can practice to raise my vibrations to patience and gratitude.
I hope you practice this, because if you don't practice it's like reading a book and we dont change because we read a book, we change when we practice.
Do you feel like this?
Everything looks wonderful in social media. You have friends, you go to fun places, and you have nice “stuff”... but it's missing that special someone to share your life with, and it feels empty.
It’s that feeling of “OMG!
How the hell did I get here and not figure this out. I have everything I want except LOVE.” And it’s natural to think… “Why have I done everything else I’ve set out to do, and not this… is this all there is for me?”
I hear you!
You become really good at coping with things like yoga, trips, staying super busy and filling up life with good stuff, but you're also overworking, over-eating, hiding, feeling lost and lonely because you're longing someone who has your back, 100%, no matter what.
And every day there’s another reminder:
The problem is, finding the LOVE and connection that measures up to the rest of your life,
can feel like the impossible dream…
It’s a crossroads. Finding a truly amazing man who is an equal - a true partner, lover and best friend -- is either going to become a PRIORITY now… Or it’s time to give up and live with… "My life is good, I’m okay if I wind up alone."
If you resonate with this, it's because you have what I call a "Love Shield" and it comes up because there is a part of you that is scared... Scared that a previous trauma or negative experience may repeat itself or you feel your identity is at risk.
It could be about your childhood wounds that seem to never heal, or your emotional connection with the trauma as an adult that keeps you locked in fear.
There are fragments of our lives that don't seem like they should be causing any trauma but show up in different ways, such as over analyzing...
If you are stuck in your head, over thinking every aspect of a date, when he called last, every single word he said, you may be stuck in your head.
When you are stuck in your head it means your heart is not leading. And in relationships and love, it’s all about the heart! You could be missing out on queues about how he really feels about you when you think too much.
Think about one of your positive attributes. Do you over express it to the point of it becoming unsettling? Or, do you under-express it because you are scared it will be too much? These kind of things could be hurting your dating life.
So What? Now What? How to Move Forward?
In order to move forward you should take care to notice your judgments. How do you judge yourself? How do you judge other people? Remember your date is a human being who wants love, wants to avoid pain and wants to be happy, just like you.
I suggest journaling about the negative judgments you make about yourself. Write each judgment down and then make a positive script to replace the negative.
When you are on a date, collect ten pieces of positive evidence.
● What did you do well?
● What did your date do well?
● What aspects of the date went well?
When you drop the "love shield", you soften a bit. It opens you up to wonderful connections and intimate relationships.
To understand how your love shield is impacting how men see you and experience you... what to do to attract quality men to you instead of pushing them away - let go of self-destructive patterns, connect with men in an authentic way, stay present in the moment and be yourself.
Drop off the "Love Shield" and let the moment unfold without judgement!
Practice self-compassion, patience, and know that a relationship doesn't come to us "ready", but we build it together, daily, in a very loving way.
It’s Valentine’s Day and you realize that you may feel sad because it causes feelings of loneliness and
reminds you that you're single. Everywhere you look you see flower bouquets, candy retailers, gift stores and restaurants catering for romantic dinners for two.
I hear you! It’s not easy to go through moments where you wish things were different. And you start thinking thoughts that begin with “if only” …
- If only I had a boyfriend
- If only I didn’t break up with that guy
- If only I was thinner, or beautiful, or tall etc …
What happens when you have those kinds of thoughts is that your energy drops as if it was sucked away
by a powerful machine. These are called “un-useful thoughts” – because those thoughts serve you for
nothing! It won’t fix what happened, and it won’t bring you Mr. Right.
Here is the thing! You are not the only one feeling the blues during this romantic holiday. There are even
couples who resist Valentine's Day as much as possible, because of the pressure to purchase gifts and
celebrate the occasion like clockwork and who find the commercialization of Valentine's Day crazy even
though they're in love.
Let’s look at some advantages point of being single right now.
Instead of focusing on the drawbacks, think about the advantages of being single.
*You can do whatever you want with your free time
* You can choose where you want to live and where you want to go
* You can have your house as clean or as messy as you like.
* You don’t need to fight over the remote control
What else? Make a list!
Instead of thinking “if only” thoughts, I would like you to think about “useful” thoughts, which are
thoughts that have utility and fill you up with great energy.
* How could I treat myself today and be my own Valentine?
* What would I like to do?
* Where could I take myself out on a date?
* What if I give myself the gift of learning something new such as playing golf, swimming, skiing etc.?
* How would it be like to give me my favorite flower bouquet? Or a love ring?
* What about attending a day spa all day long or go for a sightseeing walk over the city?
* What friends could I Invite over or do something with?
Don't make this day about hurt and loss. Make it all about love, even when single! It's important that
you radiate love, not blues so that you can attract someone that is in the same wave link. Understand?
When you drag down your sadness you look unattractive. Just think about people you know that do that. Aren’t they unattractive?
Practice self-love because when you practice self-love miracles can happen!
This is not positive thinking, this is positive incarnation. It's your minutes on earth.
It's your melody. And it's your choice on how you play the song.
It is true that you can only love a person as much as you love yourself.
If you exercise self-love, you will allow and encourage others to express themselves in the same way. The more self-love you have for yourself, the better prepared you are for healthy relating.
Even more, you will start to attract people and circumstances to you that support your well-being. So, BE YOUR VALENTINES!
I hope you liked my post today. I welcome your thoughts and comments.
Thank you for stopping by and have a great Self-Love Valentine’s Day!
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If you are waiting at home for Mr Right. Then he must be the mail man or he is the one who delivers pizza...
If those are not the type of men you want to date, here are a few things to help you get the right mind set so you can find Mr. Right.
Mr Right is someone who is in alignment with what you are looking for in life.
So, start by contemplating into your future and ask yourself where you want to be in 10 years from now, or 25 years from now.
What type of person do you want to become, and what type of partner better suit your future self?
For example, let’s say you want to be free to travel and live an adventurous life.
What kind of partner better suit this life style?
What does he do for a living?
What are his hobbies?
YOU NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR IN A MAN.
What if you want to start a family?
Then you must look for a man that has a mature outlook in life.
Perhaps someone who enjoys children and dogs.
Where can you find this type of men? Where would he go for coffee?
What does he like to do on his free time?
Seek him out, don't wait for him.
The most important part about finding Mr. Right is that you should not sit around waiting for him to find you. You have to go out and find him.
Hey, even Cinderella got herself out to that ball, right?
Don’t accept less than what you know you want in a man.
In other words don’t just date someone not to feel alone.
WORK ON SELF LOVE AND SELF CONFIDENCE and everything else will fall in place.
Until next video where I will share tips on how to heal your broken heart and how to become a love magnet.
why Positive Affirmations don't work
Positive affirmations are incredible! They can really work, when they’re done right. But if they’re done wrong they won’t work. For example if you affirm “My life is wonderful”, and “I have lots of money” when inside you know that your life is sad and you don’t have any money it’s like repeating a big lie, because it doesn’t resonate as true for you…. It won’t work…
It’s better if you say “I feel a little better every day” or “I welcome money into my life and “there’s someone out there looking for someone just like me” and “my true love is in his way”.
These affirmations will work! Try them!
Another thing that can be very harmful is when you talk about your ex-boyfriend and you say “my ex”. This phrase “my ex” keeps you locked into his energy, because if you say “my”, it means it’s still yours. His energy will remain with you and this can jeopardize your future.
So - now you know it! It’s better to stop talking about him for good. But if you need to talk about him, don’t say “ex”. Just say his name. That’s it!
This also applies to other areas in your life - for instance your health. Don’t say ”my headache”, or “my allergies”, or “my illness”, Because if they are yours, they will never go away!
Instead say “this headache” or “this allergies”, or “this illness”. Pay attention to this. Words have energy!
Now it’s your turn! What do you think about this approach to positive affirmations? What have you been doing to heal your broken heart? Remember your comments can help other people who are going through similar situations.
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How would it be like to find mr.wonderful man?
Are you ready to have a relationship with Mr Wonderful man?
All you have to do is to let love happen. Can you do this?
The more you relax into the moment, the faster it can happen. It happened to me in 10 hours! In this webinar I'm gonna share with you everything, how it happened, from the moment I saw him to the moment we said yes to each other.
It's about letting go of expectations, and become what you want to attract in a man. Can you do this? Do you know how to let go of expectations? What about becoming the person that you desire to attract? Do you know how to do this?
If you are tired of trying and want to learn how release expectations and be relaxed so that you can welcome love into your life, this webinar is for you.
When you become you in your totality, when you let your inner beauty come out, that's when you're ready to attract the one to your life. So, stop comparing yourself to others, trying to please or seduce... because it will only make you feel lonely, even if you are dating someone.
Your uniqueness is your highest asset. Believe it!
The moment you let go of trying and become present and relaxed in the moment, it's when you become special and attractive.
The love you want is waiting for you to be ready for love.
So, let's do this! It starts now!
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"You can get Mr. Right in 10 hours or Less!
I wouldn't believe that it was possible to find love so fast, if it hasn't happened to me.I learned to reinvent myself what led me to found and "capture" my Mr. Right in less than
It wasn’t always like that!
I have dealt with a lot of relationship drama in the past. Nothing was working. I would jump from one relationship to another eager to find Mr Right, and every time I only had disappointments.
All my suffering brought me to dive in an intensive self-inquiry, numerous workshops and classes that prepared me to become a magnet to attract not only Mr Right, but all the things that I have always desired – the home of my dreams where we live now in Sedona.
I studied to understand how the mind works, I became a professional life coach through a renowned school in America, and I went to England for extensive training.
As a result, I was able to retire from my full time job, and dedicate my time to coaching and to inspire people just like you. I can assure you it wasn’t lucky! I can say that there’s a formula, a way of thinking and perceiving things that can guide you to fulfill your dreams too - find your happiness, find companionship, find real love and intimacy.
I have helped many people to find love. For example, my client Patricia, from Florida says:
“You taught me how to attract the kind of man I was looking for, and then he appeared, just
like I envisioned”
Think about this:
You say you want to find love, but do you have time for love?
Look at your agenda. Does it have space for someone in your life?
Sometimes we think we are ready for love, but subconsciously we sabotage ourselves.
I would like to invite you to come to my FREE webinar where I will share with you my story about how I met my Mr Right in 10 hours, and more tips on how to heal your heart and become ready for love.
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