I was thinking another day that some people believe that happiness comes from external things: material possessions, successful relationships, career achievements or good health.
But true happiness is an internal blissful feeling within you unchangeable by life’s circumstances.
I am not saying that it isn’t good to have those external things, but there are many people who have had those achievements in their lives and they are still not happy. So, if you are looking for the “happy ever after” and are in search of all those things to make you happy, then you will like what I have to share today.
I used to think that I needed a job to make me happy. I used to think that I needed a better car to make me happy. I used to think that I needed a man to make me happy. I used to think that only when I had the house of my dreams I would be happy…
And on and on and on… only when I had kids, then only when the kids grow up… then only when I get divorced… then only when
I get married again! .. Then, only when I get that promotion, etc… It was really insane!
It’s a common belief that happiness must be an event, or a situation to satiate our desire for the love we don’t have. Someone please compliment me! Someone please give me a job! Give me a birthday party or tell me that I am important! Someone please love me!
Perhaps just like me in the past, you are waiting for happiness to knock at your door. You may be feeling hostage of a non-resolved relationship, hoping that it would change. Or, you may think you don’t have what it takes… or you often say that you are not ready for love. Perhaps you may think you are too old for your dreams, or that you are not enough. You beat yourself up and think that somehow you should be more, do more, be better, and you don’t measure up in your own mind.
The truth is that we lose ourselves as we grow up. As children, we know about self-love and peace, but we are like sponges taking in our environment on an emotional level. We learn very early that if Mommy and Daddy are happy then we will be happier too and get more of that love we need: “When Mommy is happy, she will play with me and spend time with me.” “When Daddy is not mad, he will be nicer to all of us.”
So, as we grow up and love is not there, guess what we do? We try to fix it by trying to be a better and better kid, and some kids may also try the opposite and act out to get their parents to focus on them… We learn from our parents that love is “conditional” and that happiness is an event.
For example: Let’s say a parent tells the kid that only if she has good grades she will have a birthday party. So, what do you think the kid will feel like if she doesn't have good grades and therefore not have a birthday party? She must conclude: I’m a bad girl. Bad girls have to work hard to be happy. Perhaps I don’t deserve to be happy. Perhaps I'm condemned to never be loved! I’m not good enough to be loved. With that kind of thought we may attract abusive relationships, abandonment, betrayal, etc...
You must realize that our parents did the best they could at their level of awareness. They did not know unconditional love, because they were simply repeating what their parents also taught them. Bottom line, your expectations from people or events will never fulfill you in long term.
So, we “learn” from our parents and society that we need to behave in a certain way to be loved and when we grow up, we get lost in relationships because we replay what we learned in early ages. These feelings get berried in our sub-conscious mind, and we don’t know how to deal with this…
It’s like as if we lost love… So, we look for it in all wrong places! Some people will look for it in a bottle of wine, in a box of chocolate, or in spending money buying expensive things. Others will get lost trying to find it in drugs or in sexual addiction.
Really the truth of the matter is that happiness can only flourish through within, and to find true happiness you must learn how to connect with this internal feeling of love.
If you just look at life as you look at a movie, then you will realize that life is a creative process. Life is an unfolding of events that happen just as you believe you deserve (or don't).
Do you feel this internal love? Do you believe you deserve love?
Then you will resonate with love energy and it will always be present in your life. Events and situations are a reflection of how we feel inside.
If you don’t feel love, or if you don’t believe you can be loved, then you won’t. But, it's possible to create love in your life. You bring it by nourishing the love that is inside of you without the need to have an object of attention to trigger it.
Really? You may say…
Well, I know how you feel because as it turns out, I was also shocked when I realized that we create our lives. At first it confused me that I was creating the very thing I was terrified about. How come? How can I create those bad things for myself?
Successful people actually have a different view. It wasn’t until I realized that I had to change the way I thought regarding love and happiness that I turned everything around and found the true meaning of happiness.
Being happy doesn’t mean that you won’t have bad days. Bad days are like a storm passing by… That’s another story! Being happy doesn’t mean you won’t ever be sad, because life has its ups and downs. But being sad one day or another does not mean that you are not happy. That's an aspect of being human and it's a privilege to experience a varierity range of emotions. Emotions are our guiding system. I call them our internal GPS. They show us when to go straight, when to turn left or right, or all the way around! Emotions make us alive!
But, speaking of emotions, if you just notice how much time you spend ruminating on past hurts, fears and resentments... you would want to learn how to stop this terrible habity right away! This is what create destructive energy in your life, attracting toxic people and situations that lock you in misery.
It's about taming the mind. It's not easy, but it can be done with practice and discipline.
Then, your life will change like magic just as it continues to happen to me. It was only when I embraced the practices that I now share in my training program, that I began to attract all that I want and desire: my dream home, my jeep in the garage, and my awesome man who wants to marry me!
Although I love having those things,
I am not attached or depending on these events or things to be happy. Happiness lives inside of me. It’s like a feeling of an eternal honeymoon, mentioned by
Dr. Bruce Lipton in his latest book:
“The Honeymoon Effect
The Science of Creating Heaven on Earth”.
I now know that I create my life. I am mindful about my thoughts and actions, and I am intentional about my desires. It’s about matching up with the energy frequency of love.
In his book "Power Versus Force", Doctor David Hawkins talks about feelings and their energy vibration. Just like a radio station, your thoughts broadcast energy vibrations that tune in with people and events that calibrate on the same frequency. I use Dr Hawkins' system to help my clients move through their energy blocks.
If you are afraid you are not a vibrational match to attract love into your life. Love and fear do not occupy the same space. You are either in love or in fear. Just like darkness and light. You can't have both at the same time. Understand?
So, how to ignite inner happiness? How to calibrate your feelings to atract what you really desire? How to be in love without the need of a trigger: a subject, a person or an external event to make you happy? This requires clarity and commitment to a practice.
That’s exactly what I teach in my online programs and my retreats in Sedona.
Sedona is an amazing place for transformation! Together we can create a plan for you to let go of what's not serving you, learn how to feel happy from inside out, and how to consciously create the life you want to live.
You must learn how to let go of what is not serving you and commit to discover your "internal love". It’s from that space that you will encounter true happiness.
By the way, I am super happy - from inside and out!
I am sharing with you a picture of my engagement in Greece (up above) and photos of Bruce taking my measurements for my wedding dress.
Yes, I am happy! But I was already happy before, and this is the cherry on the cake!
In this epidemic time, Bruce and I are thinking about a creative plan for a virtual wedding: Save the date May 8, 2021.
I hope my life story will inspire you to create the life story of your dreams, but remember, it all starts within.
Everything you wish is possible!
Rosane Gibson CPC, ELI-MP
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It's normal to feel anxious these days...
During sessions I've noticed my clients mentioning having anxiety.
Try not to label yourself as having anxiety.
If you want to talk about the feeling of anxiety, say "the anxiety". It's not yours, so don't own it by saying "my anxiety".
Normal levels of anxiety can happen to all of us.
If you don't like to be at theme parks, but you are ok to go to the movies, or shopping malls it doesn't mean you have anxiety.
If you are worrying about things like these, It doesn't mean you have anxiety:
- I haven't started my taxes
- I'm afraid to take this exam
- Snarling dogs freak me out
- I'm afraid of getting corona virus
Don't label anxiety if you are afraid of one thing or another. Anxiety tends to be more sweeping and radical then those scenarios.
For example, because you say you don't like big parties or crowded spaces, it doesn't mean you have social disorder.
Some people are actually living under tremendous amount of stress due to several reasons:
- trouble keeping up with their income,
- going through relationship problems,
- student debt,
Those are big problems and it's super normal to worry about these type of things, it doesn't mean you have anxiety disorder.
People who like planning and control may be more triggered about future uncertainty then someone who is more free spirited, and doesn't like to plan or to think ahead too much.
Researches say that wealthy people are more anxious then poor people. It seems accurate, doesn't it? Poor people don't have anything to lose.
Our emotions express our feelings, so if you are worried you will feel anxious, but it doesn't mean it's a disorder. Understand?
Don't medicalize or overthink normal responses to difficult situations. At this time of social distancing, due to the coronavirus epidemic it's ok to have "normal anxiety". No one knows what's coming ahead!
Stay cool and learn to relax by practicing five exercises that will help you start your days with a smile.
It's my gift for you, free of charge.
Adapt and Grow in Times of Change
Love and Light
Activity reduction results from social distancing caused by the fear of coronavirus contamination. The recommendation is to stay separate, and to not interact with people to help slow or prevent spreading the coronavirus. This is leading us to pay less attention to the outside world, which is making us pay more attention to the “inside word.”
I love quotes from brilliant people who’ve lived in the past.
For example, Blaise Pascal was a French mathematician, physicist, inventor, writer and theologist born in 1623.
"All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone."
I believe Pascal touches on the issue that we’re going through right now with need to "social distance" ourselves to slow the spread of the coronavirus.
According to Pascal, we fear the silence of solitary existence, and we dread boredom because it's easier to choose aimless distractions to help us avoid our problems or our emotions.
We’ve never learned the art of solitude; and because it is unknown, it creates panic.
How can we optimize the opportunity that this social isolation brings us?
What will we be able to discover if we gracefully accept the chance to be quietly alone?
Bruce and I have been on a road trip (Arizona to Colorado) for a friend's wedding celebration. During our trip we’ve made several stops in the Navaho Indian Reservation and we’ve learned some wisdom that I would like to share with you.
Here's a message from the Council of 13 Indigenous Grandmothers:
"As you move through these changing times... be easy on yourself and be easy on one another. You are at the beginning of something new. You are learning a new way of being. You will find that you are working less in the yang modes that you are used to. You will stop working so hard at getting from point A to point B the way you have in the past, but instead, will spend more time experiencing yourself in the whole, and your place in it. Instead of traveling to a goal out there, you will voyage deeper into yourself. Your mother's grandmother knew how to do this. Your ancestors from long ago knew how to do this. They knew the power of the feminine principle... and because you carry their DNA in your body, this wisdom and this way of being is within you. Call on it. Call it up. Invite your ancestors in. As the yang-based habits and the decaying institutions on our planet begin to crumble, look up. A breeze is stirring. Feel the sun on your wings."
Find below a picture of a "Navaho Hogan" - a place for ceremonies, with door facing east to welcome the rising sun for wealth and good fortune.
In other words, I believe that where we place our attention, creative energy follows.
If we pay attention to what we don't want, more of it will happen. In a collective level it can manifest as a deadly virus that threatens our existence.
American President Franklin Roosevelt once said:
“Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself”
Mother Teresa refused to protest against war:
“I don't participate in anti-war demonstrations. I will never do that,
but as soon as you have a pro-peace rally, I'll be there.”
Do you see the difference?
Activity reduction results from social distancing caused by the fear of coronavirus contamination. The recommendation is to stay separate, and to not interact with people to help slow or prevent spreading the coronavirus.
This is leading us to pay less attention to the outside world, which is making us pay more attention to the “inside word.”
As we reduce physical activity, we can increase mental activity - we can think more, we can worry more, and we can get lost inside our heads. This is a natural human reaction. The worst thing you can do is to sit in desperation as you connect to the coronavirus drama all over the Internet.
Let’s think in terms of opportunities:
Here are a few answers that came to me:
We are slowing down, practicing solitude and introspection; we are cultivating patience and self-esteem. This is a collective reminder that we are meant for something greater.
What is it that you couldn’t or wouldn’t do before that you now have time to do?
Virginia Wolf, a major writer of the 20th Century, said:
“An hour, once it lodges in the human spirit, may be stretched to fifty
or a hundred times it’s clock length.”
As we continue marching forward into the future and we have more time on our hands because we don’t need to drive to work or go to restaurants or social gatherings, we can practice stretching time to create our vision.
Social distancing is not about coronavirus! It’s about evolution! It’s self-actualization! It’s time to listen to our intuition and grow our ability to self-healing. We will be learning to speak fewer words, and perhaps this will lead us to telepathy!
It’s time to unleash our brain to full expression! Individually and organically! Creatively discovering financial freedom! Emotionally being more capable for living without fear.
Self-isolation isn’t about coronavirus, it’s about our evolution! Let's welcome new thoughts and solutions to create the NEW EARTH we crave to live in!
Social distancing – love it!
We’re part of the ocean that represents life. We have no control over the waves, but we can choose not to surf them, and remain calm at sea.
Love and light
WHAT'S STILLING YOUR ENERGY AND WHAT TO DO TO GET IT BACK
I have been thinking about what stills our energy, leaving us feeling "blah" and sometimes even sick. I would like to share with you my thoughts on this.
We all have the ability to recharge and center. Life force energy is available to all of us at any time! Life force energy is the cosmic energy that comes from outside the body, enters the brain and keeps the cells charged with life. This is the same energy that makes flowers bloom, our nails grow, or planets to move around the sun. When our energy tank is full we feel invigorated, happy and connected to life.
How do we absorb life force energy? Living healthy, eating uncooked fruits and vegetables, because they contain “trapped light”, and can elevate our life force energy. Drinking pure water, walking in nature sun and moonlight bathing because they also contain “prana” (another name for life force energy).
Sometimes, when we may feel week, or down, it may be because our life force energy is leaking... For example, do you have a headache after hanging out or talking with some people? This can be a sign that your energy is draining, or leaking out. But it may not be because of them, but how you are managing your life force energy.
Our minds will drain energy when it’s not trained properly. The mind is like a stubborn horse that needs to be tamed. For example: non-useful pointless thoughts, negative thoughts from the environment, or anything that keeps our focus of attention for too long will drain our energy.
Drama drains our energy big time! Many people are addicted to drama, that’s why the media sells it so well! Have you noticed people who like drama? They talk about it, repeat it, spread it, and you can even see their ears perking up with curiosity and wanting to know more about the drama…
What if you are one of those people who are addicted to drama? What if the drama is your life story? What if you are addicted to thinking or talking about your problems too often?
Am I addicted to drama? Does drama stimulate me? Do I get curious and want to know more, talk more, share more? Do I re-tell the story over and over again? Do I like when people listen to my drama?
Drama is interesting, because it feeds the person with low vibe energy – which is like sugar – it may perk you up in the moment while you are gossiping, but it will drain your energy right away and you will feel crashed down … Then you may start to create more drama in your life, because it’s like a drug… you will be addicted to it's momentarily perks.
Media, social media, the news are also energy stilling! People who push your buttons are taking energy from you… People who be-little or bully you are also taking energy from you!
While it’s important to get out of these situations and get away from these people, it’s mostly important not to make it their responsibility to stop vamping you! It’s your responsibility to stop giving your energy away. Otherwise you will be playing a victim role, and victims are powerless. It’s like setting yourself up to failure.
Instead of blaming others, you must have the control over your energy!!
I teach my clients a centering exercise practice that fills up our tank with life force energy. It’s about focus, posture and expansion of our personal space. It’s a powerful practice!
Focusing on posture is amazing! It allows energy to flow through the meridians which are like energy rivers that run through our bodies, and bring the “prana” to us! If you don’t have the right posture, “prana” will be blocked.
Create the habit to correct your posture when you catch yourself bending or curving your body. Look far away and breath deeply as often as you can. I recommend you to be active. Dance classes, tai-chi or Q-Cong and any martial arts are great activities that create the habit of good posture. I also recommend: positive thinking, meditation, hiking in nature.
All those things fill up our tank with yummy life force energy!
Observe your thoughts and be in control! Don’t let your energy drain, because it’s important that you have a full tank of energy to operate at your best!
I hope this article was helpful and that you commit to a mindful practice, so that you can be the master of your life force energy.
This video contains exercises that I recommend and practice often.
Much love to you!
Reply to share with me how is your energy tank these days!
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Rosane Gibson CPC, ELI-MP
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WHAT YOU WANT IS WITHIN REACH!
As you may know, I'm a super fan of LOA (Law Of Attraction). To me it's as obvious as the law of gravity. You can't deny gravity, yes? But in the past it was a strange concept for many. You can't deny electricity, right? But in the past people did not believe it was possible.
How about the energy transmitted by our phones and computers? When talking on a cell phone, a transmitter takes the sound of your voice and encodes it onto a continuous sine wave, similar to how radio works. It's called radiofrequency (RF) energy.
How about this energy called "life force energy", Rosane? It's invisible like electrical or radiofrequency energies, but, do you believe in life force energy Rosane?
"Life force energy" is the energy that makes our heart beat, a flower bloom, our hair and nails grow... It's the same energy that orchestrates this magical dance of planets and galaxies in the Universe. It's the energy that creates worlds! In Sedona, we call it "Vortex Energy", in Asia they call it "The Chi".
Believe it or not, gravity is real. Believe it or not, radiofrequency energy is real. Believe it or not, life force energy is real too.
What would the world be if we all paid more attention to life force energy, hum?
This may seem odd to you at first, but it would be really helpful for you to begin to accept that we are energy too. This Universe that we live in is vibrational based and our thoughts are vibrations! When you think a thought, or believe in something, you emanate an energetic signal, just like radiofrequency does.
The vibration of our thoughts and beliefs must match the vibration of our desire. It's like AM or FM radio stations - you won't hear FM if you are tuning to AM. Understand?
Here's an example:
If you want love, but you are afraid of being hurt again, you are not a vibrational match to love - you are a vibrational match to trouble! If you want to travel and to live abundantly, but you are afraid of leaving your job, you are not a vibrational match to abundance and travel, you are a vibrational match to being stuck in a job your don't like with people you don't like too... What comes from fear, will keep resonating with fear based stories and your life will seem like a replay of an old movie or a broken record. You will live life as a victim of the circumstances, powerless and lost.
That's why it's important to learn how to shift your focus. Watch this video where I explain the four levels of consciousness - which is about perception shifting.
Shift your focus! Create the habit of paying attention on what makes you smile. Focus on what makes you feel good. It can be simple things such as a drinking a cup of delicious tea, or taking a warm bath...
Be mindful of your "attitude", your "default" programs of fear, and create the habit of shifting them one at a time. Every time you feel locked in a situation that brings you emotional pain, release it by asking yourself this question: What is another way of seeing this situation that will empower me?
For example, your desire for an improved financial condition cannot come to you if you often feel jealous of your neighbor's good fortune. For the vibration of your desire and the vibration of your jealous feelings are different vibrations. Understand?
I love sharing practical mind-body activities in my "Hiking Therapy Sessions". Sedona is a perfect platform for this, because it is a container of life force energy that we call "vortex". Think of vortex as "chakras" of the planet (energy points).
A retreat in Sedona offers great opportunity to learn and experience vortex energy! You learn activities that will help you master life force energy and become a conscious creator of your life! I love sharing these exercises because they have changed my life and the life of everyone who learns them.
The synergy of a retreat group is incredible and everyone benefits from exploring new ideas, different perspectives, and gaining feedback from peers. In a group retreat, we make new friends for life, which I like to call "our spiritual family".
Join our retreat in Sedona, it’s the best investment on YOU!
Talk to Barbie (information below) she is the retreat hostess and she can make it work for you in terms of payment.
If you can't come to our retreat in May, perhaps you have a group of friends or co-workers that would like to visit Sedona another time, let me know and we can customize a retreat just for you.
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